5 Easy Ways To Be More Confident NOW
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The reality is that people who are confident in themselves tend to be more successful. No one likes an egomaniac, and you certainly shouldn't puff yourself up when you have no idea what you're talking about, but there's a big difference between cockiness and confidence. The person with low self esteem who never makes eye contact with anyone and is terrified of saying or doing the wrong thing is rarely the person who gets the promotion or makes the sale. You have to be confident enough in yourself to accomplish important things and live to your full potential. So what can you do if you have a big presentation and you're just feeling super insecure? Here are my top 5 tips for boosting your confidence fast! Number 5 is my personal favorite...
1. Stand tall.
Research shows that by simply changing your physical state (putting your shoulders back, holding your head high), you will feel more powerful / confident. Next time you find yourself slouching over, looking at the floor, etc. try changing your posture! Put your shoulders back, hold your head high, and see how it affects your mood and confidence.
2. Talk to yourself / to God
It might seem crazy, but go somewhere private and literally talk to yourself out loud, using positive affirmations like "You belong here. You're ready. You can do this". For me, praying out loud also gives me a strong sense of peace and security, by trusting that God is with me and I have nothing to fear.
3. Surround yourself with positive people / influences
You are the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with, and your confidence is a product of your inner voice. Maybe the reason you find that your confidence is always lacking is because you were raised with a lot of negativity and have developed a negative inner voice. Also, don't underestimate the power of the content that you're consuming online, on social media, on tv, etc. These seemingly small influences can make a big difference. Take inventory of the influences + content that you're allowing into your life and consider cutting out some of the negative / toxic ones.
4. Channel someone confident / fake it
Sometimes you just have to fake it til you make it! Channel your favorite confident celebrity (Beyonce, for me) and embody their strength when you're feeling insecure. Personally, listening to motivational rap music tends to have a similar affect on me. :)
5. Try things that scare you. courage > confidence
The only real way to build lasting confidence is to try things that scare you. Facing something scary and making it through will give you a strong sense of confidence in a way that nothing else will! As Debbie Millman says, "Confidence is created from repetitive success at doing something." In that way, courage is actually more important than confidence, because courage gets you to actually try the scary thing that will give you confidence in the end.
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Now it's your turn:
What are some ways that you stay confident when you're feeling insecure? Let me know in the comments below!